Thursday, November 15, 2007

Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget

I was reading my friends blog last week and she had a post on Friendships. It made me think about how grateful I am for all the wonderful friendships I have made through out the years. I have been truly blessed to have such wonderful friends. There are so many different kinds of friendships we encounter throughout life. I have some amazing friends a wonderful family, and I feel so lucky to have been able to marry into another incredible family. I have so many wonderful examples in my life who have helped shape me into the person I am, and hope to become. While I was writing this post I remembered an article in Oprah's Magazine on Friends. I think these are some great examples of the types of friends we want and want to be.

Five Friends Every Woman Should Have By Michelle Burford

"Friends are the family we choose for ourselves," writer Edna Buchanan once said.

I consider the "family" I've gathered—with five kinds of pals I count on for completely different things—among the wisest choices I've made. If you can find even one who embodies any of the characteristics that follow, you can consider yourself fortunate.

1. The Uplifter This woman's favorite word: yes. You could tell her you're trading your six-figure income for a career in offtrack betting, and she'd barely pause before yelping "Go for it!" Don't you need someone who looks past the love handles to notice the extraordinarily gorgeous you?

2. The Travel Buddy When the hotel in St. Lucia is a bust, one characteristic becomes all-important: flexibility. This agreeable companion need not be the girl you traded pinkie swears with on the playground; it's enough that she's comfortable with quiet (between gabfests) and is a teensy bit mischievous (as in tequila after midnight).

3. The Truth Teller Intent is what separates the constructive from the abusive. Once you've established that the hard news is spoken in love (not in jealousy or malice), you'd be smart to seek out this woman's perspective.

4. The Girl Who Just Wants to Have Fun One Saturday a pal and I—and yes, we're both over age 12—pored over every glitter lip gloss in a drugstore aisle for an entire 45 minutes. Forget the crisis download (for that, see the Uplifter); this partnership is about spontaneous good times.

5. The Unlikely Friend "Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive," Ana├»s Nin wrote. My friends—some twice my age, others half, some rich, others homeless, some black like me, others Korean, Mexican, Caucasian—have added richness to my life that only variety can bring.


Mauss Memories said...

Ha...that's funny because I just did a post on friends too! Oprah always has a great outlook on life.

Muranda said...

I am so glad that you are my friend!

The Mauss Family said...

Friends are the best! So which one am I? Just kiddin!! I am so glad we have been friends for 15 years!! Can you believe it? Holy cow - that is a true friendship! Thanks to Mr. Wheelers class - gotta love 7th grade english!! You're the best and I am glad we have stayed in contact for so long!!

Mont, Becky & Bailey James said...

That was wonderful. Thanks for posting that. I needed to read something like that. I love my friends!!!!